Issa & Molly: A Case Study On A Lack Of Communication

Disclaimer: Spoilers, son. Act accordingly.

So, I won’t lie, man. On the real, this post may be all over the place because I’m trying to write about the whole Insecure series from memory. In any case, the inevitable finally occurred between Issa Dee and Molly Carter, fam. After weeks and months of visible tension, things came to a head at Issa’s block party. All in all, these issues were completely avoidable, bruh. Frankly, if Issa and Molly actually acted like adults and expressed their grievances, their friendship would probably still be intact.

Ok, before I continue, let me say that both Issa and Molly are at fault here. The fact of the matter is, both women have clear character flaws. Now, in regards to Molly, she can be a shady and judgmental friend. Since season one, anytime that someone, most notably Issa, says some real shit about her attitude, Molly’s response is to bring up a problem about the messenger. Instead of actually listening to good advice, Molly’s default setting is shade. Real talk, I’d have a HARD time being friends with someone like Molly, son.

Now, when it comes to Issa, yeah, she can be a train wreck, man. From cheating on Lawrence to sleeping on Daniel‘s couch to her random assortment of jobs, Issa always seems like she’s in some shit, fam. So, as her friend, I could understand being tired of her shenanigans, bruh. However, despite all of Issa’s and Molly’s faults, their final spat was unnecessary. Look, I honestly believe that if they had ONE conversation with each other, they could’ve reached a resolution.

The way I see it, their gripes with one another are all about perception. Issa thinks that Molly is an asshole and Molly thinks that Issa is a constant car accident. When Issa didn’t show up for Thanksgiving, Molly thought that Issa didn’t care. All Issa had to do was say that her mom’s boyfriend got hurt and she had to stay with her brother. When it comes to Andrew, Molly should actually be thanking Issa. Issa correctly identified the fact that Molly sabotages her relationships. Because of this, Molly worked on salvaging her union with Andrew. So, what did Issa get for her good work? A decision from Molly to keep Andrew away from Issa, even at the potential expense of Issa’s block party.

The funny thing is, for all of this “Issa is messy” talk, Molly is pretty fucking messy herself. Let’s not forget, she was fucking Dro, a whole married man, for a substantial amount of time. Oddly enough, she cut off her own father for an infidelity that didn’t even happen to her. All I know is, both Issa and Molly have their own fucking problems. But, they already know this about each other. So, just put all of the cards on the table and fix this shit, son.

In the end, a lack of communication can be a death sentence, man. Ultimately, it’s amazing how far a simple dialogue can go, fam. By and by, it would be a damn shame for the friendship between Issa and Molly to crash and burn because they don’t know how to use their words. At the end of the day, we’ll see where this story goes, bruh. That is all. LC out.

Let’s Talk About Issa Rae’s ‘Insecure’ Finale

So, I’m going to start this post by throwing my lady under the bus. Even though the finale for Issa Rae‘s HBO show, Insecure, aired on Sunday, I couldn’t watch it until last night because she fell asleep during the original showing. With that being said, everyone can blame her for my late review. In any case, I see the episode has splintered men and women on social media. Frankly, I’m not sure why. Issa took a lot of L’s in this episode and she deserved every single one of them.

Now, let me begin by saying I understand all of the gripes Issa had with her boyfriend, Lawrence. For the most part, he was a fucking bum, son. Despite being technologically gifted, he wasn’t doing shit with his abilities. At this point, I’m sure Issa was sick of hearing about Lawrence’s “app,” which never seemed to get off of the ground. Yes, we all have dreams, bro, but at some point, potential isn’t cool anymore. Either make real moves or shut up about these mythical aspirations. It was clear that he wasn’t really pulling his weight in the relationship.

Ok, now that I’ve gotten that out of the way, let’s talk about how Issa still ruined her own damn life. Even though I chronicled all of the ways Lawrence wasn’t shit, she still had the option to leave him. If she was that unfulfilled in her relationship, then what’s the point of hanging around? Being with someone for a number of years isn’t a good enough excuse. I could kick rocks with bare feet for four years, but that doesn’t make it a good fucking idea, man. Ohhhhh, ok, she was waiting around to see if he would get his shit together. But wait, when he actually got his shit together, that’s when she cheated on him with Daniel! How does that make any fucking sense, man?! She waits until Lawrence starts to become the man she wants him to be and throws it all away? What part of the game is that, son? Nah, man, Issa isn’t a victim here. She brought this avalanche on herself.

To be real, as fucked up as it sounds, I would’ve understood the situation more if she cheated while Lawrence was still bumming it. At least, in that case, she could’ve blamed it on unhappiness. It would’ve still been a bullshit excuse, but she would’ve had a stronger leg to stand on. Her relationship with Lawrence was actually on the incline and she fucked it up because she had an “itch” she wanted to scratch. Well, ok, she scratched her itch, opened up a major wound and now she doesn’t know how to fix it. Now, instead of coming home to her man, she came home to a set of keys, an empty bedroom and a Best Buy t-shirt. To make matters worse, Lawrence then proceeded to blow the cartilage out of Tasha‘s back. Shiiiit, it’s cold out here on these streets, son.

Ultimately, Issa doesn’t have an argument here. Disillusionment is not an excuse for disrespecting a relationship. If she truly wasn’t happy, she should’ve left. She didn’t have to wait until things were moving in a positive direction to derail it. She got what she deserved. Viva la Lawrence!