So, I won’t lie, son. On the real, I was thoroughly entertained by Humans of New York‘s story about Bobby and Cheryl Love. I mean, after my wife sent me the Instagram thread, I was definitely enthralled by Walter Miller‘s, excuse me, Bobby Love’s story. In any case, I was a little taken aback by all of the comments from people who seemed to champion this love story. The truth is, regardless of the fact that he was running from the law, Love was just a shitty ass husband, man.
Ok, for those who missed it, the Love story goes as follows: Bobby Love was born with the name Walter Miller and was raised in North Carolina. Moving on, by his own assertion, he was a rebellious kid who engaged in all types of shenanigans. Anyway, after a string of bank robberies that left him with bullet holes in his ass (literally), Miller was sentenced to significant prison time. Now, after a relatively short period, Miller decided to escape from his bondage. So, eventually, he was able to duck past the guards, hop on a bus and he made his way to New York in 1977. From there, he changed his name to Bobby Love, met his wife and raised a few kids. Hell, his marriage has actually remained intact for about forty years, fam.
Now, the Love’s world came crashing down when the authorities finally caught up with him in 2015. After decades of being on the lam, Love was forced to confront his past and tell his wife who he really was. All this time, he had been lying to Cheryl about his true identity. In the aftermath of this ordeal, Cheryl has tried to gain clarity on this entire situation. She now believes that the gaps in Bobby’s love for her, pun intended, were due to this mammoth secret he was keeping. The way I see it, he was just a terrible fucking husband, bruh.
Look, in her own words, Cheryl said “We had some beautiful love making. But other than that, there wasn’t much affection. Not many hugs. Not much cuddling. Not much communication. I could only get so close and he’d shut down. Sometimes, when we were arguing, I’d be pouring myself out to him. And he’d just sit there with a scowl on his face.” *Sigh* I hate to break it to Cheryl, but I HIGHLY doubt that anything she just said is related to him being a fugitive.
Listen, being on the run is not an excuse for not being attentive. Being on the run is not an excuse for not giving hugs. Being on the run is not an excuse for not acknowledging a spouse’s feelings. Man, for years, Cheryl wondered if something was wrong with her because Bobby didn’t seem to give a fuck. Like, she shed a ton of tears feeling inadequate. All I can say is, I’m not chalking that up to him being an escaped convict, brethren. Now, I can understand not posing for pictures or wondering if he was being followed. But, in the sanctity of their home, he could’ve done a MUCH better job of valuing his wife. So, nah son, I’m not letting Bobby off of the hook for basically being an absentee husband.
In the end, I truly believe that Bobby Love was a typical dude from that generation. Ultimately, if he was paying the bills and raising the kids, then what’s the problem, right? By and by, I feel like Cheryl is now trying to give Bobby an out for his questionable behavior. At the end of the day, I don’t think that she wants to feel like she just wasted forty years of her life. All I know is, Walter Miller isn’t the reason why Bobby Love was a shitty husband. Frankly, Bobby Love did that all by himself. That is all. LC out.