So, I’m going to start this post by throwing my lady under the bus. Even though the finale for Issa Rae‘s HBO show, Insecure, aired on Sunday, I couldn’t watch it until last night because she fell asleep during the original showing. With that being said, everyone can blame her for my late review. In any case, I see the episode has splintered men and women on social media. Frankly, I’m not sure why. Issa took a lot of L’s in this episode and she deserved every single one of them.
Now, let me begin by saying I understand all of the gripes Issa had with her boyfriend, Lawrence. For the most part, he was a fucking bum, son. Despite being technologically gifted, he wasn’t doing shit with his abilities. At this point, I’m sure Issa was sick of hearing about Lawrence’s “app,” which never seemed to get off of the ground. Yes, we all have dreams, bro, but at some point, potential isn’t cool anymore. Either make real moves or shut up about these mythical aspirations. It was clear that he wasn’t really pulling his weight in the relationship.
Ok, now that I’ve gotten that out of the way, let’s talk about how Issa still ruined her own damn life. Even though I chronicled all of the ways Lawrence wasn’t shit, she still had the option to leave him. If she was that unfulfilled in her relationship, then what’s the point of hanging around? Being with someone for a number of years isn’t a good enough excuse. I could kick rocks with bare feet for four years, but that doesn’t make it a good fucking idea, man. Ohhhhh, ok, she was waiting around to see if he would get his shit together. But wait, when he actually got his shit together, that’s when she cheated on him with Daniel! How does that make any fucking sense, man?! She waits until Lawrence starts to become the man she wants him to be and throws it all away? What part of the game is that, son? Nah, man, Issa isn’t a victim here. She brought this avalanche on herself.
To be real, as fucked up as it sounds, I would’ve understood the situation more if she cheated while Lawrence was still bumming it. At least, in that case, she could’ve blamed it on unhappiness. It would’ve still been a bullshit excuse, but she would’ve had a stronger leg to stand on. Her relationship with Lawrence was actually on the incline and she fucked it up because she had an “itch” she wanted to scratch. Well, ok, she scratched her itch, opened up a major wound and now she doesn’t know how to fix it. Now, instead of coming home to her man, she came home to a set of keys, an empty bedroom and a Best Buy t-shirt. To make matters worse, Lawrence then proceeded to blow the cartilage out of Tasha‘s back. Shiiiit, it’s cold out here on these streets, son.
Ultimately, Issa doesn’t have an argument here. Disillusionment is not an excuse for disrespecting a relationship. If she truly wasn’t happy, she should’ve left. She didn’t have to wait until things were moving in a positive direction to derail it. She got what she deserved. Viva la Lawrence!